@Joe - I was surprised that Ryan Lanza took the bus home after learning that he was publicly identified as a mass murderer.  I'm glad that he didn't run into anyone who felt the need to take justice into their own hands.

Is this case terribly different than that of Richard Jewell?  He was a heroic security guard who rescued many during the Atlanta Olympic bombing, but was wrongly identified as the bomber for many years.  Everyone turned against him and had something negative to say about him, which quickly showed up on traditional media. I remember reading an article in a magazine like People where Jewell's high school classmates shared their stories about how he was alway weird and likely to be a bomber. The speed of identification/villification/vindication was compressed for Ryan Lanza, but it seems like the same story.  

The current thing I'm not getting outraged about is Instagram's claim of reproduction rights on all photos. I can't get outraged about that. It's just business. Although I'll probably cancel my Instagram account. 

Mashka - I'm not going to judge anybody's reaction to grief, particularly in the face of a personal tragedy like this one. 

There was a case a coupe of years ago of a mother whose toddler drowned in a swimming pool, and she came under criticism because she tweeted about it right away. I understood the impulse -- people who use social media frequently are going to use it to reach out to connect to other people during a time of great loss. Plus, it takes time for personal bad news to hit and become real. 

Mitch, I think the outrage now happens more than daily.  It used to be daily outrage on cable news.  The social media news cycle is even faster.  New outrage every two to three hours.  And yes, it's exhausting.

People cope with tragedy differently. I'm sure he had enough things on his mind to worry about. I don't think we're in any place to judge how he reacted or what he focused on because we won't ever know what it felt like for him at that time, to find out what had happened, that his mother had just been killed, and that the person responsible was his brother. Such a sad and trafic situation to be in.

Media was too quick and too eager to point the fingers at somebody that they forgot the basics of journalism, which is to fact-check and make sure they get their names and stories right. What Ryan Lanza went through was basically character assasination. And as you said, I find it so ironic that people are so free with expressing their anger and hatred on the Internet. 

@Mashka  Not everyone mourns the same way or goes into a near catantonic state or shuts everything out when someone in the family dies. What one will be thinking about then depends a lot on the circumstances. The only safe generalization is that no one likes to feel hated -- even by strangers. It's understandable that Lanza wanted to defend himself when accused of killing so many innocent children and adults.